Social media: Parents unconcerned by Facebook, Twitter
A new survey says 83 percent of parents believe social media benefits kids more than it harms them.
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A whopping 83 percent of parents think the benefits of their children’s social media use outweigh or at least balance any perceived risks.
In a national survey released Thursday by Children’s Mercy Hospitals and Clinics, almost three-fourths of parents said social media prepare children for success in a digital society and encourage curiosity and collaboration.
The results surprised researchers at Children’s Mercy given that parents also said they are concerned about child molesters, sexting and cyber bullying.
More than half of the 728 parents surveyed thought social media made their children more open-minded.
Barely two in five parents worried their children’s online activity could breed social isolation and behavioral problems. Roughly the same number was concerned that children’s virtual lives could get in the way of their real-life social skills and friendships.
The expert’s take?
Social media exposure has many benefits, said Children’s Mercy child psychologist Ed Christophersen, but giving children unlimited and unsupervised access is asking for trouble.
“Most of us did some things as adolescents that we don’t want on the front page of The Kansas City Star,” he said. “And yet we kind of assume blindly that our kids won’t.”
“You have a right to demand the password for your children,” Overland Park, Kan., Police spokesman Gary Mason said. “They’re your kids and you should be actively looking at what they put on the Internet.”
There are other ways to give a child freedom, he said.
Of the parents surveyed, 71 percent believe that 13 is the right age to let their children use Facebook. Christophersen said that’s usually the right choice.
“People keep saying ‘what age, what age, what age?’ Well, it depends on the maturity level,” he said. “If you’ve had a kid that has just been a pain, why would you give them unlimited access to the Internet?”
Facebook restricts children younger than 13 from opening an account, although it’s not uncommon for children to fib about their age when signing up.
Once a child has a social media account, Christophersen insists that parents get passwords and join their child’s circle of friends to see posts and pictures.
Social media are not private like a diary, he stressed.
“If your child has a journal, it’s none of your business what the child says in it,” he said. But Facebook and Twitter, he said, aren’t a journal.
Pictures and posts live on the Internet to haunt or humiliate a child forever.
“Parents,” he said, “make the mistake of assuming the Internet is safe until they find out otherwise.”
After decades of work, he’s seen it all. Teenage lovers texting pictures of their genitalia only to wind up in jeopardy of spending their lives on a sexual predator list. He’s talked to angry parents upset about discussions their children had online about sex. Most of the time he ends up counseling the parent to use common sense: Monitor your child.
Many parents don’t know how to navigate social media and trust teenagers to tell them if there is a problem.
“If you do a survey of teenagers they will probably tell you that the car is safe even though it’s the biggest risk to their life and limb,” he said.