A month of fast and feast

We are sitting on the floor after Tuesday evening's iftar, or breaking of the fast, watching TV. I turn to my brother. "Are you going to Taraweeh prayers?" I ask referring to the Ramadan prayers that usually start around 9 p.m. at the mosques. They include at least eight prostrations, or as many as 20, and can last up to two hours.

But he's distracted by an ad with a woman dancing in a skimpy belly-dancing outfit. "Hey people, it's Ramadan! Can someone change the channel?" he shouts.

"Did you see that?" he says to me. "That's not what the spirit of Ramadan is about. All this distracts from the spirituality of the month. Instead of staying up late, overeating, and watching television, people should be getting up early, working, and feeling the deprivation."

His words remind me of three different Ramadan cartoons I've seen in the local papers. They show government or private-sector employees sleeping at their desks while piles of paperwork grow. In Saudi Arabia, schools and most offices start one hour later and finish one hour earlier. On the other hand, the retail stores are closed almost all day, and open almost until dawn. Even my dentist appointment Thursday is at midnight.

Later that evening, my 14-year-old daughter, just back from a trip to the States, where she went on a belly-ring buying spree, appears.

"Mom, can I go to Taraweeh prayers?"

"You want to go to Taraweeh prayers?"

She rolls her eyes at me.

"Yes, Mom. I'm late. Can I go?"

"With who?"

"Khadija and Salma."

Her beach friends. I'm dumfounded. "Why?" I demand.

"You should be happy instead of giving me an interrogation. Now can I please go? They're waiting."

I nod and she takes off.

That night, I sit in my room reading about Ramadan. There are many people who fast and get nothing but hunger and thirst, the prophet Muhammad said. Fasting is invalidated by backbiting and slander, one book explains. Indulging and overeating after the fast contradicts the purpose of the month, which is to diminish carnal desires and increase faith and spirituality. Compete during Ramadan to be the best Muslim you can be; everything you do this month is rewarded 70-fold.

I feel my competitive spirit stirred by the literature. I bet I could fast, and be sweet, and even eat only soup in the evenings, if I put my mind to it.

An image of my daughter going to Taraweeh comes to me and I'm suddenly filled with gratitude for my healthy children and all the other blessings in my life. I could do Ramadan as well as if not better than the next Muslim. Although Allah and I are not on the best of terms, with all my heart I do want to say, "thank you."

And as my Cheetos-eating friend, Ahmad says, "It can't hurt. But it can help."

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