Steps in forgiveness

Several models, including exercises, have been developed to facilitate forgiving.

Here are two:

Model 1 - Three stages:

Rediscover the humanity of the person who hurt you;

surrender your right to get even; revise your feelings toward the person.

Model 2 - REACH:

Recall the hurt; empathize with the person who hurt you; give an altruistic gift of forgiveness; commit yourself aloud or on paper; hold on to forgiveness.

Sources: 'The Art of Forgiving,' Lewis B. Smedes, Ballantine Books; interview with psychologist Everett Worthington Jr.

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