Nature versus nurture: our parenting expert’s two cents
Our connective parenting expert’s two cents on this ever-interesting, ever-controversial question. And for the record, she's going with nurture.
Peterborough, N.H. — I had a really interesting dinner conversation the other night.
A friend asked me what ratio I would put on the old nature versus nurture argument. Everyone chipped in their opinions, and it led to a very lively discussion.
Even though the topic was the content of my masters thesis, I hadn’t thought about how I would rate each side’s importance in a child’s life. I quite quickly said 40 percent nature to 60 percent nurture.
Even though how a child is born — whether shy or outgoing, aggressive or calm, introverted or extroverted, learning disabled, neurologically, physically or mentally challenged, gay or straight, etc., — has all to do with how a person perceives the world. But how the world perceives him or her has all to do with how confident that person becomes.
Someone born with musical talent for instance, will have way more of a struggle in life reaching his potential if his personal world devalues artistic achievement than one with support and encouragement. A child with ADHD will have a far easier time in life if her environment understands her innate tendencies and gives her appropriate structure in which to understand herself. One’s self-confidence is paramount in determining whether or not that person reaches potential.
It is for this reason that I weigh in on the side of nurture.
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