A 30-minute toast and a tasteless roast
Wedding etiquette, to some, sounds like an oxymoron, since mashed cake on the face and embarrassing, red-faced toasts have become all too common in some circles. So, as the summer wedding season winds to a close and the fall marriage season starts, Bride's Magazine compiled a list of wedding decorum tips.
Schedule the reception within one hour of the ceremony's end. Don't make guests wait too long in between, with no place to go.
Tuxedos should be worn only for evening weddings. Morning coats, cutaways, or navy blazers should be chosen for daytime weddings.
Send all guests, and their dates, personal invitations. Avoid saying it's OK to "bring a guest." Everyone feels included if invitations are personally addressed.
Don't lose face by smashing cake. Bride and groom should use a plate and fork to lovingly feed each other.
Avoid tasteless and interminable toasts. A three-minute time limit works well.
Drink to others, not yourself. For toasts made in your honor, raise a glass, but place it back on the table. Sip only for others.
Don't let the disc jockey steal the show. Musicians should pace the party, but blend into the background so the bride and groom can star.