'That fishing rod only cost $10,' and other lies spouses tell
CHAPPAQUA, N.Y. — About 40 percent of married Americans admit keeping a secret from their spouses, but most have nothing to do with an affair or fantasy, a new poll has found. The most common secret is how much they spend.
Of those with a secret, 48 percent said they had not told their spouses about the real price of something they bought, according to the poll, published yesterday in the August issue of Reader's Digest.
"I don't like to tell him how much I spend when I go shopping," said one wife. "I'm afraid he'll cut back on the budget."
The percentage was about the same for husbands. One man concealed the price of a small purchase: "The item wasn't very big, but the price of it was."
The second most-kept secrets, at about 15 percent, are about a failure at work or a child's behavior. "There are times your kids do things that you know would make the other party ballistic," one woman said.
For the poll, Illinois research group Ipsos-NPD surveyed 1,000 husbands and wives. It has a margin of error of plus or minus 3 percentage points.
Two percent of all respondents, equally split among men and women, said they had an extramarital affair that remained a secret. Fourteen percent kept mum about being attracted to another person.
Some people kept secrets not out of guilt but to avoid hurt feelings. One woman said her husband told her for years that her cocker spaniel had been stolen, to spare her the knowledge that it had been killed by a car.
It also found that 20 percent of the nation's marrieds have dreams or aspirations they haven't mentioned to a spouse, ranging from living somewhere else (50 percent) to getting a dog (8 percent).
About 40 percent of the wives and 30 percent of the husbands said they wish they could persuade their spouses to be less messy. About a quarter of each sex said they can't get their partners to lose weight.
But one woman said she has no such problems.
"I could convince him to dye his hair orange if I wanted," she said.
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