"What are your ambitions?" Grandpa would ask me. The question hung like a threatening stormcloud throughout my childhood. You can do, you can be anything you want to," my mother tried to reassure me. She didn't. Yet for all the trauma of feeling inadequate to his hopes and expectations for me during my early years, my grandfather was the powerfully attractive, loving father figure in my life.

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