One mother's stories about raising a family

Author Jennifer Grant advises and confesses in her new book – here are five of her anecdotes.

4. Don't worry so much

By Henry Li

Grant remembers when her son Ian was younger and he would see a sibling or other young child fall down. According to Grant, Ian would coolly gaze at the child who was hurt and state (with the speech impediment he had at the time that stopped him from pronouncing his "r"s), "Well, on the bwight side, it didn't happen to me." Grant says she worried over this, thinking that Ian didn't have compassion towards other people. But today, she says, it's different. "He has a gift for working with children and becomes a one-man vaudeville show when he's with a young child who is fussing or sad," she writes. Grant cautions against parents who worry endlessly over a child who's too fidgety (will he never be able to pay attention in school later?) or a child who likes the ice cream truck (will she only want to eat ice cream as an adult?). "I wish I hadn't seen everything my little ones did as somehow predictive of what they would do as adults," Grant writes.

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