*Try to cultivate friendships with men who will become positive male role models.
*Help your male friends understand their significance in your boy's life.
*Be aware that the men in a boy's life teach him by example how to treat a woman.
*Don't bad-mouth your ex-spouse to your children. It teaches them you don't mean what you say about being kind to others.
*Talk to your child about marriages they are familiar with: What do you think works? What doesn't? Why? What role do compromise and negotiation play? If they don't learn this by example at home, it helps to talk it through.
*The worst thing you should do when boys say "Leave me alone" is to do it. Let the umbilical cord loosen as they grow older, but never disconnect it.
*Parents need to realize that, despite divorce, they remain co-parents throughout a child's life.
*The more time sons spend with their dads, assuming it is positive and appropriate, the better.
*Connect with other single parents as much as possible.
*Let people help when they offer.
*Be sure you live in a community that is varied and accepting of you and your child.
Culled from interviews with educators, counselors, authors, and single parents.
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