The Week the Women Went: More male image stereotype?
The Week the Women Went is a new reality show in which all the women in a town go away for a week leaving it to the guys and dads. It could reinforce a negative male image stereotype, or the men could prove their potential with the women around – even if a 4-year-old has a cup of coffee.
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While the female pastor cried out, “It was God’s idea that every man needs a woman. Woman was not created as an afterthought, He had something in mind!” My suspicion is that this plan was not a reality TV show, but who am I to say I know the mind of the Lord?Skip to next paragraph
Lisa Suhay, who has four sons at home in Norfolk, Va., is a children’s book author and founder of the Norfolk (Va.) Initiative for Chess Excellence (NICE) , a nonprofit organization serving at-risk youth via mentoring and teaching the game of chess for critical thinking and life strategies.
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So the men are left holding the kids and the bag on everything from a coffee-drinking toddler to a beauty pageant. In two cases, young girls are left to run their mothers’ businesses, which should be a whole series in itself.
My son’s favorite quote came from an unidentified man who moaned, “A washing machine is an intimidating machine!” To which my son Ian shouted at the TV, “Amen!”
I looked at him and said, “You just used the washing machine to wash your jiu-jitsu gi. What are you talking about?”
He had the decency to look embarrassed when he said, “Well, come on, men are expected to be idiots when it comes to that stuff. It’s funny when they are.”
It’s funny in a movie or Bill Cosby routine, but not in a real life “documentary.”
Everybody loves the Bill Cosby comedic moment when he, “Dad,” is asked by the kids to give them chocolate cake for breakfast when Mom sleeps in. His brain looks up the recipe for chocolate cake and returns with: eggs and milk and flour. “You want chocolate cake?” he asks the children. “You got it!” All’s well, the children are singing songs of praise to him, until the mother comes stalking down the stairs and demands to know who gave them the cake, and they all rat on Dad.
Yes, in the first episode of "The Week the Women Went," kids ate corn dogs, Ramen noodles, and lollipops. Some dads actually formed alliances like on the show "Survivor" as a means of coping.
It’s painful when life repeatedly imitates sitcoms and a grown man can’t buy proper food, cook the meal he worked to provide for his children, or cope with the common use of a machine he can probably take apart and rebuild, but not operate to wash a load of laundry.
I don’t want to raise my boys to be unable to live without me. As Tammy Lane, the domineering mother of a 21-year-old son still living at home, told the camera, “I still do everything for him except wash him, and if he asked me to, it might be a different story.” She said that last bit implying that she would consider it if asked.
The man, Justin Lane is the town’s fire chief, the guy responsible for many other lives in that town, yet his mother is still working hard to make him incapable because she needs to feel indispensable.
We expect our men to lead the world, care for their children, their wives, and others. And to do that, we need to teach them to use the washer, buy more than peanut butter, bread, and beer and know more about the washing machine than how to rewire it.
Yet it is because they can take the machine apart that I believe these men can rebuild our image of them and their potential. Whether Lifetime takes us there remains to be seen. I, for one, will be watching.