The Third Chapter

On my great-grandmother’s 50th birthday in 1900, her 9-year-old daughter – my grandmother – went to her room and cried inconsolably. The little girl thought 50 was old and worried that her mother might not live many more years.

At the time, her concerns were not unfounded. Life expectancy then was just under 50. Today it averages 80, giving 21st-century Americans 30 more years than their forebears enjoyed a century ago. Turning 50 is hardly cause for tears.

Instead, it’s a time to reassess. The intriguing new question is: What to do with those extra decades? Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot, a Harvard sociologist, calls this “a significant and new developmental period in our culture,” a time ripe with possibilities for self-fulfillment.

In The Third Chapter: Passion, Risk, and Adventure in the 25 Years After 50, she characterizes those in this age group as neither young nor old. Through interviews with 40 men and women who see themselves as “new learners,” she chronicles their dreams, vulnerabilities, and successes as they transition from lengthy careers to avocations and creative pursuits.

Their ranks include Mario Delgado, an industrial chemist who became a sculptor in his late 60s. Josh Carter, a former journalist and newspaper executive in his early 60s, now trains as a jazz pianist. Roma Wolfe, a 57-year-old physicist, has cut back on laboratory research to teach in an after-school program for low-income teens. And Grace Clark, who resigned from a university press at 57, is an emerging playwright.

Other new learners include a biologist who takes surfing lessons in her mid-50s and an architect who went on her first archaeological dig at 70.

On paper, it all sounds easy. But for many, success is hard won as they alternate between feelings of loss and liberation, pessimism and optimism. As Lawrence-Lightfoot explains, Third Chapter learning “requires humility, willingness to take risks, a capacity to look foolish....” She cautions that the path will not be smooth or straightforward.

Some Third-Chapter explorers discover a new sense of authority and courage. They welcome the chance to, in the words of poet Nikki Giovanni, “shatter the staleness” of their lives.
Carter, the journalist-turned-jazz-pianist, for example, revels in “deep connections between work and fun: the harder he tries and sweats, the more enjoyable it is.” And Wolfe, the physicist who works with teens, finds the hardest part of venturing is losing her fear and being able to face the unknown.

Other new learners must defy the long-ago voices of teachers and parents who told them, “You’ll never be able to [fill in the blank].”

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