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The editorial "An Intolerable Situation," June 10, quotes the Rockefeller panel's conclusion that "Children do best when they have the personal involvement ... of a father and a mother, and when both parents fulfill their responsibility to be loving providers." I heartily agree. Let's include in this pro-family focus the needs not only of those children in intact families, but also children of divorced parents and those born out of wedlock.Society needs to accept the premise that both fathers and mothers are important to, and should take responsibility for personal involvement with, their children in or out of marriage. Those unfortunate men (and women) who perhaps never had good, loving relationships with their parents need to be provided with instruction on how to be good parents. There are many legal obstacles to fathers having access to fully participate in their children's lives. These should be removed. Custody orders and support orders should reflect the importance to the children of meaningful time with both parents and then be realistically enforced. Welfare laws should not discourage parents living together. Divorce costs should be kept at the absolute minimum and not impoverish or be punitive to either party. Family resources must be available to help meet the needs of th e children. Kathryn Humphrey, Wilmington, Del.

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